This my first list of things that our parents (especially our moms) said to us a children that I promised myself I would never say to my daughter, but somehow the lines still manage to come out.
These weekly posts will include the phrases, my reactions when I was kid, my daughter’s reaction to me and my reaction to my daughter.
Some of her reactions are just Priceless & others…well I will let you decide for yourself…
Ø “I am going to change my name to something else other than “mommy”.
o My Reaction to my mom as a kid: I remember when my mom said this to me for the first time. I was devastated. I didn’t know what to do because she was just mommy to me.
o My daughter s’ reaction: WELL TIMES ARE A CHANGING!! I said this to my four year old the other day and she stopped, looked at me, said okay and called me by my first name! Yes! My first name!
o My Reaction to my daughter: I couldn’t do anything except laugh and shake my head because her response was not what I was expecting at all. Kids these days are different from when I grew up. Wouldn’t have dared, or thought about calling my mom by her first name cause she would of opened up a fresh can of whoop ass on me…what would your mom have done?
Ø “Little girls don’t (act, sit, talk, etc) like that”.
o My Reaction to my mom as a kid: I just use to get frustrated when my mom said this to me. But OH NO, not my little one.
o My daughters’ reaction: When I said this to her she asked “mommy then I don’t want to be a girl anymore I want to be a boy”.
o My Reaction to my daughter: all I could say was “uh huh” and “you can’t be a boy” and walked away because I knew the “mommy why not?” question was coming and I couldn’t wrap my head around having that conversation at that moment.
Ø “One day when you have your own children you will understand.”
o My Reaction to my mom as a kid: Again something else that I would just walk away angry from my mom about.
o My daughter s’ reaction: . She looks me square in the face and tells me, “I am not going to have kids, I am too little, so I won’t understand”.
o My Reaction to my daughter: Again it was “Uh huh! “ and I left it at that
Ø “Answer me when I ask you a question!”
o My Reaction to my mom as a kid: When my mom said this to me I would answer even if I was scared shit-less!
o My daughter reaction: My daughter….she just looks as me as if I have 2 heads. She is SOOO stubborn! Wonder where she gets if from J
o My reaction to my daughter: I just shook my head cause I knew my question wasn’t going to get answered. I have learned to pick my battles and this was one I didn’t want to have.
Ø “How many times do I have to tell you?”
o My Reaction to my mom as a kid: I would apologize. Quick, fast and in a hurry
o My daughter reaction: “Huh?, what did you tell me?” or “Huh mommy, what did you say?”
o My reaction to my daughter: My daughters’ response to this drives me ABSOLUTELY crazy. Usually I have to take a mommy time out when she responds. I set myself up for it every time!! I usually say this after I have repeated myself at minimum 5 times about something as simple as picking up a wrapper off the floor and she acts like she doesn’t hear me or takes FOREVER to do the task at hand. I tell she is lucky that she didn’t grow up with Grammy because Grammy believe that’s “sparing the rod, spoils the child” (if you know what I mean)