Our power finally came on Sunday afternoon!!! Yeah!!!
First I want to say Thank you to everyone that stopped by and left comments on my post. It really meant a lot to me and my family to know that we were being kept in prayers and best wishes were being sent our way during this time!
This past week really tested me both on a relationship level and mother level. It is one thing when there is a planned vacation. You planned to work late, to make sure that all your work is caught up & take care of certain household things (cleaning, laundry, etc). You are able to go into the vacation relaxed. Activities are planned during the day and money has been budgeted accordingly. When there is an act of God and the events that unfold are surreal it really is a different ballgame all together.
Staying in a hotel room for a week trying to work remote on a terrible wi-fi connection at the hotel while simultaneously entertaining and managing a 4 year old was quite a challenge in and of itself. My daughter thought it was vacation (simply because we were in hotel that had a pool). I had to keep telling myself that she is 4 and she really doesn’t understand so I had to be patient.
The constant “mommy when can we go to the pool” was driving me crazy, because it didn’t matter how many times I told her that “mommy had to work”, all she cared about was the pool. Finally at one point I told her that “in the mornings the pool was closed for maintenance and wouldn’t be open up until evening .” I know that we shouldn’t lie to our kids or lie in general, but I had to come up with something to stop the endless repetitive question. I was losing patience fast and I didn’t want to take it out on her.
Then there was the guilt from my daughter. I knew that all she wanted to do was spend time with me. She asked me several times a day “mommy, why do have to work?” or “mommy why can’t you spend time with me?” That was painful to hear as a mother and the look on her face broke my heart. All I could do was just try my best to explain that I had to work and if I could I would spend all day with her. I knew that no matter what I said her little eyes showed the hurt and confusion because she just wanted to spend time with her mother and that was all that matter to her.
Next, was the relationship with my boyfriend that came into play. He too was stressed about the whole entire situation. Worrying about me (he knew I was stressed about work and the house), worrying about my daughter (she got sick in the beginning of the week) and both of us worrying about the money that was being spent that was not budgeted for (we have to rent a car in a week to travel for Thanksgiving, my daughter’s birthday is coming up and Christmas is right around corner).
Communication and understanding was the key for the both of us during this time. We agreed and acknowledged that it was stressful and that we needed to be honest with each other when either one of us “needed a time out from the other.”
We agreed that it was not a moment to be taken personal by the other. If something flared up, we would take a deep breath before we spoke. This worked out very well and I am pleased to say that we didn’t fight once and it secured our commitment to each other and proved that communication we have is excellent!
Overall, this situation was a blessing in disguise. Sure there was the extra money that was spent, but it was done because as a mother I was not about to keep my daughter in a cold house during this week. It forced me to truly dig deep and balance work and my family.
Yes, work is important but not as important as my daughter –making sure that she was safe and comfortable was the only thought on my mind. The consequences of not physically traveling into the office and finally putting my foot down (telling my boss that either would either work remote or take the week off – her choice) , was scary but rewarding.
Secondly, it proved that I am with a very wonderful and caring man, that I can communicate with and be honest with. It proved that we are team and no matter what comes are way; we can make it through together. It gave a chance to really open up to each other. The doubts or questions that I may have had were washed away, as a reflect back on this week.
The stories I heard at work about couples fighting (they stayed home in cold houses for days), just broke my heart. There were even news articles that questioned if there was going to be a spike in divorce rates during this time due to stress both emotional and physical during such an event.
Although, I have power back on in my home, I am completely drained after all that has happened. I am truly blessed that my family is okay, there was no damage to my house and that all is relatively back to normal (except for all the laundry and yard work that has to be done).
Please continue to keep those residents in the towns of Avon, Simsbury and Granby in your prayers as there many people that are still without power after 10 days!!!