As most of you know my daughter spent Christmas and New Years with her father in South Carolina. She returned home last night and I was excited to see her and she couldn’t stop hugging me and telling me how much she missed me. She was on perfect behavior for a 5 year old all night and through this morning. I was in mommy heaven and prayed that it would continue because I had a long day ahead of me.
Well let me just say that my prayers were not answered today…lol. By the time I got to the after school program, I was exhausted from work. I just wanted to get home, relax and spend time catching up with her and the time she spent with her father. As I was getting ready to put her hat on I noticed that the top of her head looked…a….little…different.
As inspected the situation I realized that her hair had been cut! Yes cut! I was exhausted, it is that time of the month, was completely shocked and all I could manage to utter was “What?…. Why?…. Who…?” I could feel the tears swelling up because the last thing I wanted to do was take her hair out tonight and try to figure out how to hide the fact that she had cut her hair and I knew at that moment my mommy heaven was no more and I was back to mommy reality.
Let me tell you about the details. She cut her hair – not once, not twice..but THREE times on three separate pony tails. She cut it right on top of each one. Why? Because she said some other kid in class cur their hair and she wanted to try it. Seriously??!!
On the drive home I decided to try and use this as a learning opportunity about life. I explained that she knows right from wrong and that she needs to be a leader rather than a follower. Being a follower will most likely get you into trouble each and every time.
I explained that she needed to learn to be her own person and not do things just because someone else was doing it. I know that sometimes it will be hard not to follow the crowd as she got older, but it is better to be do the right thing and not get punished or yelled at for making the wrong choices and going along with her friends when they are doing something they are no suppose to be doing.
I had her call her father when we got home and tell him what she had done. I have to say that he is always good at disciplining her when necessary and doesn’t give her an inch. He was firm not harsh, direct and to the point about her behavior. It did make me feel good to know that although our marriage didn’t work and he is miles away, we can still be a team and co-parent.
After they hung up she came over with tears in her eyes and said that she was sorry and that she would never cut her hair again. I told her no computer for 2 weeks as punishment and she accepted with no resistance.
I did manage to get creative and fix the areas that she had cut. The good thing is that it wasn’t as bad as I originally thought, her hair is pretty thick and I didn’t have to re-do all of it.
My mommy heaven lasted less than 24 hours, but in the end she did come to me and apologized for her actions without me promoting her do so. It was also a reminder that although she is tall for her age and more advanced, she is still 5 and will from time to time behave in the way of any 5 year old.