Disclaimer: The thoughts on this blog post are those of my own that I have learned from experiences that I have had with my daughter. There is no “right or wrong” way to parent. We all parent based on the needs of our own children.
Prenting at times is just a straight out hard job. There is no manual and it is the only job where you truly learn as you go. You may find at times going without certain things so that our children can have what they need. Remember that God will always provide the necessities of life, no matter your struggles and through the trying times.
Parenting requires patience and compassion. Children demand parents to be there for them, through the difficult times and the easy times. They look for us to praise them for a “job well” done. As parents we have to remember that we can’t praise are children for doing “what they are supposed to do.” For example, doing chores, listing, being respectful, etc. We should praise them for going above and beyond. If you don’t they will expect praise at every turn in their lives and could be harmful as they become young adults. The world isn’t at praiseful as parents can be.
Advising, reminding, encouraging, nurturing, teaching and training our children to live a Christian life by thought, word and example. This can be a difficult task because once they go to school they are being influenced by children from all different walks of life and morals and ethics.
Sometimes those difference may not line up with our values that we are trying to instill in our children so we have to be mindful to talk and open discuss any situation or conversation that may arise. Being frank, open and honest is a key to having effective communication with our children. It will also allow them to feel comfortable coming to us when any problems or situation may arise.
Parenting is a lifelong, full time commitment, that doesn’t end when our children turn 18.