When you become a divorced parent you need to consider lessons and behaviors that you need to model to your children. You need to the messages you convey will influence your children and initiate them into adulthood.
Bad and ugly things happen to good people and divorce is a prime example. Good people also fall out of love with their spouses and get divorced and this is because responsible people who are loving parents make a decision of ending a deceitful and loveless marriage.
When parents go ahead with a divorce decision can either be getting a grip on their life an happiness or destroying it all depends on the approach of this transition. There are parents who are blinded by blame as well as anger never get to learn much through the experience since they will always blame their former ex-partners as the problem and always think that a divorce will be the right decision that brings results.
What these kinds of parents don’t know is that they will be faced with a tough decision that will affect how their children will grow and react after the divorce has been finalized and cope of living with two parents that they have to keep visiting separately.
There are those parents that focus on divorce as a threshold into greater self-realization, reflection as well as understanding. For any sane parent repeating the same mistake is a no, no and these parents really want to be aware of any part they played in the failure of the marriage.
Parents that go on a path of self-reflection ask themselves questions as well as search and try to find within themselves what they did or did not do so that they can know why they had a disconnect with their spouse.
Such parents them become very cautious and will do everything that will let their children leave a happy life and will ensure the next person they introduce into their lives is a person that will embrace the children as their own.